I took the day off to attend to some personal business.
First, I took a cue from my long-time blogpal Sling and used my Blooger skills to set up a 'sample' blog that the radio station could use as a newsletter/forum, thus keeping our internal politics off-the-air and off our public website; things that have been a problem for us lately.
Then I spent a long time talking with my grandmother concerning my father's whereabouts- he's been MIA (Missing In Alcohol) for a couple of months now. He had almost 90 days of sobriety but he chose to go back to the bottle.
His last words to his mother:"Say goodbye to the cat for me."
So I did a little sleuthing. Don't ask me how.
I found that Dad's bank and credit card activity ends abruptly on May 7th. This activity is how I used to track him down- back when I still cared enough to bother- it's possible that he figured out that he can be tracked via his plastic and has switched to all-cash, but I think that's unlikely.
The most likely scenario is that he's been dead since May 7th. Or 8th.
It must seem awful cold of me to be able to write about it like that, but that's the way is with alcoholics. I have tried to help him, but he has made his choices and he'll die with them.
I've made my choices too.
My choices are not his choices.
I intend on living with mine.
Anyway, I expect the shit will hit the fan very soon. There's already a considerable amount of fecal turbulence in my neighborhood, so if I'm not around much, don't be alarmed. I'm doing what's needed and I'll be back soon.
Then again, I could post again in an hour.
I honestly don't know what's going to happen, I only know what's NOT going to happen.
-I am NOT going on a wild-goose intervention chase for my AWOL parent.
-I am NOT going to stop playing music, alone or on the radio.
-I am NOT going to quit writing.
-I am NOT going to take a drink.
Not giving in,
Allan
11 comments:
And I am NOT going to stop being here for you. If you need me you know where to find me. And may the fecal turbulence disappear.
so what happened at work? what did u do?
You and I both know that addicts are gonna do,what they want to do..
Just like we both know that it isn't "cold" to feel that way. I hope that Pops is okay my friend.
Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Keep us posted.
Whim,
I know.Thanks.
Sus,
Work? Sometimes I go in, sometimes I don't. I guess I'll get fired and wind up homeless. I don't care anymore. It doesn't matter.
Sling,
Yeah, I know. I don't care what happens to my father, but he's killing my Grandma with his BS. I can't accept that.
JP,
Thanks. I keep trying to do 'right things' and EVERYTHING goes wrong anyway...all at once, it seems.
I am running out of hope.
It's not over yet, though.
Defiance suits you.
Im with ya buddy!! one step forward and 2 back.. fuck i hate that dance...
hugs...
and uhhh jp.. how do you get a pic with xina? i might have to hate you for that alone.
You are doing the right thing and even though your grandmother might not understand..don't give in..and you have my phone number..I'm home damn near all the time..especially late at night..call me..if the phone is busy..(I'll be on the computer)..send me an email and tell me to get the fuck off..I'm always here for you and you know it..
good choices-- did you or your grandmother file a report about your dad?
WTG allan! its sounds like you're not entirely having fun- but you're in my prayers everyday dude, i admire you and what you do immensely!
hey- my baby sister's 3rd year sober anniversary is coming up- sheesh... am i glad i don't have to wonder where she is!
i meant the station.
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